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I love being with happy people!

There is something so contagious about their joyful and fun filled lives. On the other hand, I avoid the company of miserable and bitter people. They are not pleasant to be around. Why? Because generally they are full of complaints, their countenance is dark and they exude an atmosphere of pessimism.

The success of our lives depends upon the choices we make

I suppose you could be wondering if I am an unsympathetic person who lacks empathy. No! I love people and I care deeply about them, but I do think that the success of our lives depends upon the choices we make

Viktor Frankl put it this way:

The last of the human freedoms is man’s right to choose his attitude in any and every situation.

We choose whether the circumstances of our lives will make us bitter or better. It is our decision whether we allow our disappointments and our failures to become stepping-stones or stumbling blocks.  Our choice!

Proverbs gives us some great advice

The book of Proverbs is a wonderful book. I read a chapter every day to ensure I fill my soul with wisdom for the day ahead. Proverbs 4: 23 gives us some great advice. It says:

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

When the Bible speaks about ‘your heart’ it is not referring to the organ that consistently pumps blood through your body; it is alluding to the seat of your emotions; the inner you. It is important that your internal being (heart) is healthy.

There are three steps to ensure a healthy heart:

1. You must guard of your heart 

You are the guardian of your heart; no one else. This is your heart and you have to take care of it. Proverbs says that you guard your heart.  If you are struggling with bad or negative attitudes, the first thing you must do is take responsibility for your own heart. Quit blaming others. I am not unsympathetic here—I understand that people may have hurt you and I do empathize with you in your pain. Emotional, physical and sexual abuses are awful things to contend with. But, if you want to walk in freedom you have to let go of your past.

2. Guardianship of your heart must be a priority

The writer of Proverbs says; “Above all else, guard your heart…” In other words, there is nothing more important than taking care of your heart. Why? Well, once again Proverbs gives us the answer.

3. A healthy heart is a wellspring of life

Simply put, if your heart is healthy it will be a ‘wellspring of life.’ What a beautiful image the writer paints for us. Picture it for a moment—a spring with clear, crystal water flowing out of it. Some springs can become the source of rivers if their openings are large enough. That is the image the writer tries to describe of a well-guarded heart—life-giving water flowing out of you to those around! On the other hand, a heart that is left unguarded can shrivel—like a spring, if the source is damaged, or if there is a drought, it dries up!

I encourage you to make the health of your heart a top priority.

  • Look into the deep recesses of your inner being and ensure there is no lingering anger, bitterness or unforgiveness.
  • Take responsibility for your own heart.
  • Make some good choices today.

The amazing truth is that if you take care of your heart and ensure it’s health, then not only will you enjoy the benefits, but those around you will too. Your heart will be like a bubbling spring that will pour out of you and bless everyone around you. I want a heart like that!

Carol is married to Paul and they have two wonderful children and two grandchildren. She has lived on four continents, traveled to over 50 countries and preached in most of them. She is passionate about Jesus and His Kingdom and has just published her memoir, Wild Hope. She has a PhD in practical theology and currently serves as Director of the Graduate School at Trinity Bible College, North Dakota.

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