Single for a reason


A truth that never makes its way onto coffee mugs in Christian book stores is: “It’s not what you’re looking forward to that’s important, but rather where you presently are that matters most.” For a single woman it translates this way: Even though you are waiting for your life-partner, what are you doing with your life right now? Your present life is of the utmost importance.

Always remember that while you are waiting to be blessed with a man, you in turn are meant to prepare to be a blessing to him. As women we are called to be that “good thing” which a man finds.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22

When you truly think about it, it’s a pretty tall order to be a “good thing”. It means that while you are waiting to be ‘found’, you are actively working at developing yourself as a woman.

There are many ways of preparing yourself for a husband:

  • Practice the fine art of homemaking.
  • Decorate.
  • Make your house inviting, warm, and homey.
  • Work up a repertoire of simple but tasty meals that a husband can select from.
  • Be fit—no, not ‘model’ looking—but in good shape. This will contribute to a feel-good-look-good attitude that is very attractive to others.

Being fruitful with what’s possible to control right now, will set you up to gain more than you could ever imagine. Think about it; why would God add to what you already can’t handle? God will not entrust you with more if what you already have overwhelms you.

This is not the key to catching a man

Please don’t get me wrong . . . this is NOT the key to catching a man—it’s deeper than that. The principle I am talking about is that of stewardship. We are all called to be good stewards of that which God has entrusted to us. This is reflected in the parable of the talents in Matthew 25:14-30:

For to everyone who has will more be given, and he will have an abundance. But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away. – Matthew 25:29

Do you feel that you are already being a good steward of all that God has given to you?
Are you wondering why He will not add marriage to the list?

I have two suggestions (there may be more):

  1. The first is the Lord’s timing. Only He will determine when your season of singleness is over, so wait on Him.
  2. The second is motivation. The Lord searches your heart and knows what lies underneath all you do. He knows the reason you’re being a good steward. Is it just to catch a man? Or are you doing everything for the One who will call you to give account?

Always remember that He made you for Himself first and foremost.

So are you being a good steward of your single womanhood?

If a potential partner had to ask you to fill in a CV, would your skills, abilities and achievements qualify you to be a wife?

I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please leave a comment below.

Benedicte Badibanga-Mbuyi

Benedicte Badibanga-Mbuyi

Her real name is actually Benedicte but everyone who knows her calls her Betty. Equipped with a great sense of humour and quick mind, Betty doesn’t take things too seriously, is loud and loves to make people laugh. A social butterfly with a post-grad degree in political science, she has various unrelated interests which include health and fitness, academia, theology, psychology, history, acting, and shopping.

2017-01-27T09:36:33+02:00 January 27th, 2017|Categories: Relationships, Singleness|Tags: , |0 Comments

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