He loves me . . . he loves me not


We have all played that game, He loves me . . . he loves me not

It is apparently a game of French origin according to Wikipedia, in which one person seeks to determine whether the object of their affection returns that affection or not.

A person playing the game alternately speaks the phrases “He (or she) loves me,” and “He loves me not,” while picking one petal off a flower (usually a daisy) for each phrase. The phrase they speak on picking off the last petal supposedly represents the truth between the object of their affection loving them or not. The player typically is motivated by attraction and may seek to reaffirm a pre-existing belief, or act out of whimsy.

We play this game in our relationship with the Lord whenever we wonder if He loves us

I have once again been struck by how we doubt our Father’s love for us in so many ways.
It seems that many of us 
have not settled this question in our hearts once and for all!
We still seek to affirm His love for us and wonder about it.

Just as the game seeks to know the truth, the truth of God’s love for us is emphatically stated in scripture. If you want to know how someone feels about you, one usually looks at the impact you have on them.

In Jesus case, this is the impact you and I had on Him:

He died on the cross because:

  1. He “loved me and gave himself for me” (Galatians 2:20).
  2. So that Sin could be dealt with and I can be “reconciled” to Him in a love-relationship (Colossians 1:22).
  3. So that I being rooted and established in love, may have the power to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ (Ephesians 3:17-19) and to know this love that surpasses knowledge . . . filled to the measure of the fullness of God,” which considering God’s size . . . is very full!

He is in a love-relationship with us

Now, this may have been true of our understanding of His love for us at one time, but now we say “Yes, I can believe that God may have once loved me in that unconditional, passionate way, but I have messed up so badly, there is no way that He can still love me like He did at first!”

But this is a lie! 

  • His love for you is not based on your behavior or performance, but it is based on His character.
  • His character is faithful because the truth of scripture states that: His love always believes the best in every person.
  • What it hopes for you never fades whatever the circumstances.
  • It endures through everything without reducing in any way.
  • It never fails, never fades, never becomes outdated or invalid. It never ends.
  • It is impossible for His love to end or waver (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

His love is supernatural and should not be measured by our capacity to love, but on His capacity to love.

But we say: “He may have love me like this once, but now too much has passed between us, there is no going back, He cannot love me like this anymore.” Another lie!

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. – Romans 8:38

Nothing can come between you, no matter what! God’s acceptance and love for you is complete.

How do I know He loves me? Because the Bible tells me so!

We don’t have to play He loves me . . . he loves me not. In our relationship with Him, we know He loves us! Full stop! Every page of the Bible says HE LOVES ME.

What is your favourite verse about God’s love for you? Please share it with us by leaving a comment below.

Michelle leads Cedars Ministry, as she believes strongly in mentoring women. Michelle speaks at churches, retreats and women’s events and is also one of the organisers of Beauty for Ashes women’s conference. She blogs at Heart Treasure, and lives in Johannesburg, South Africa. She is married to Adrian and has two teenage children.


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